Quenny Ogechukwu, a Nigerian woman, has ended her marriage after enduring what she describes as four years of “physical assault, fear, suffering, tears, and embarrassment.”
Ogechukwu, who disclosed this in a Facebook post on Saturday, April 5, 2025, recalled the journey that left her traumatized and mentally drained.
According to Ogechukwu, her husband, Offorbuike Ernest Ogbuyeme, allegedly locked her out of the house at slightest provocation, poured hot tea on her face and beat her in public even while carrying a sick baby.
She further alleged that Offorbuike was assaulting her during courtship but she still went ahead with the marriage because of what people would say.
According to her, Offorbuike threatened to kïll her and go to jail. She said he said he would make sure that she is not alive to see him in prison.
“Yesterday, 4th April, 2025. I mustered the courage to leave an abusive marriage, Again,” she wrote.
I’m broke, scared and uncertain about what the future holds for me moving forward but for now I don’t think there’s anything more scary than living with a man who thinks it’s ok to pour hot tea on my face because he’s angry, a man who thinks it’s ok to put his hands tightly on my throat and choke me so much that his fingers dig into my skin and make a mark; just because I’m “rebellious” (according to him), a man who threatened to kïll me and go to jail but “he will make sure that I’m not alive to see him going to jail” , a man who slaps me and throws weapons at me just because he’s angry or there’s a disagreement.
A man who locks me out at any slightest provocation and a man who beats me in public even when I’m carrying a sick baby.
I’m leaving when I still have shreds of self esteem left in me. I don’t want to get to that point where I feel it’s ok for my husband to “beat me into being submissive” where I feel I deserve to be physically a$saulted because I did something wrong, there’s no justification as to why my husband would beat me, slap me, push me, seize my phone or lock me outside. He annoys me and I don’t do that to him so why is it ok for him to do that to me for whatever reason.
Four years of emotional abuse and physical assault, four years of fear, suffering, tears and embarrassment.
I have become paranoid so much that my heart skips when I see him. I don’t know when the next slap or punch will land on me. I’m constantly running in my mind because I don’t feel safe. This is not a way to live.
I’m not a saint but if I have so much bad character that you can’t tolerate or manage me is it not best to let me go. Yet he won’t. Each time I do. He would beg and beg and recruit people to beg me but I come back he will act nice for two months and go back to default settings. Just keeping me running in circles, physically and mentally.
I need to leave for my sanity. I have become a shadow of myself and everyday I’m slipping into trauma. I may not have loved myself enough to marry this man because he was as$alting me during relationship but I still went ahead with the marriage because I was so scared of what people will say. but I love my kids enough to keep them away from a father who doesn’t mind beating their mother in their presence. I’m tired of waiting, praying and hoping for him to change.
Anybody should feel free to mock me but it’s better that I’m alive to experience mockery than de*ad and not see the eulogy that would be written on my pictures while typing R.I.P.
I’m sorry to my family and his family who will find this out from here but I needed to do this for posterity sake and to solidify my willpower.
I hope and pray for myself that I muster the courage and not bow to any of his manipulation and come back this time around.
Many people will feel insulted and disappointed that I brought this to the public but I want to say that if your intentions is to advise me to go back and make peace with this man. You’re officially my enemy; the only time your feeling of disappointment is valid to me is if you intend to help me stand up to this man to leave me alone because obviously he’s gonna come after me and probably try to take my kids.
Offorbuike Ernest Ogbuyeme I have only one thing that I ask from you. Leave me alone!.
Of course I will definitely do it the right and legal way by going to my family and have them dissolve the marriage so we can co-parent in peace (if he’s capable of doing that though because he hardly does anything in diplomacy) because we’re properly married but for now; let me put this out here because keeping it private has done me no good so far.
