My Wife And I Never Kissed During 10 years Of Dating, We Were Both Virgins – South African Man Reveals


A South African marriage therapist, Bakhe Dlamini, has revealed that he and his wife were never intimate during their 10 years of dating.

Dlamini, who disclosed this in a Facebook post on Saturday, July 29, 2023, said that he and Nokwanda, a community psychologist/social worker, met in high school in 2001.

The relationship expert stated that the first time they shared a kiss was during their wedding ceremony when the pastor asked him to kiss the bride.

Dlamini disclosed that they both believed in the principles of no s3x before marriage which worked for them.

“So my wife & I never kissed during 10 years of dating. We met at high school, 2001, were prom mates following year, and we didn’t kiss. First time I kissed her was when the priest said, “You may kiss the bride”, 10 years later, 2 July 2011. Both of us were virgins too. I had to be clear with her from word go that I respected her body, preferred we don’t even kiss. I believed in being a gentleman, not rushing a woman. I also mentioned to her that I prefer we don’t even kiss because I knew that the moment we kissed, we’d fall into the trap of s3x before marriage. I wanted us to get to marriage pure. We also believed in the biblical principle of “no s3x before marriage”. So to those dating and believe in no sex before marriage, it’s possible. Cheers.”